True Self-Care for Parents: Why It Matters (and 7 Simple Ways to Start)

connectparenttopar
May 15
3 min read

Self-care is essential, particularly for parents, and its not merely an indulgence. However, society has distorted the concept of self-care into a task, using it as an indulgent benchmark to judge if we are "doing enough" or "being enough."

And no, self-care doesn't have to mean expensive spa days or lavish vacations. True self-care is rooted in loving and accepting yourself as you are — not just when you achieve something, not just when everything is perfect, but right now.

Caring is a natural response we can have to another human.

Strangely people find it easier and more acceptable to care for someone else rather than care for themselves. The social 'norm' or myths such as "caring for yourself is selfish" or "people that take care of their needs are full of their own importance". These and other phrases similar make self compassion more difficult for people to achieve and create unwarranted feelings of shame and inadequacy

Both men and women experience burnout, but in the realm of parenting, it is frequently the main care givers who are seen balancing life, children, and often a job as well. The challenge of managing time and dealing with guilt can be overwhelming.

We, as parents are encouraged to give continuously and criticised severely when we take a moment to care for ourselves. Particularly for parents, there's an unspoken expectation that your children's needs should always take precedence — when in reality, prioritising self-care is one of the most crucial actions you can take for your family.

You have to be okay — emotionally, physically, spiritually — in order to raise children who feel safe, loved, and resilient.

It’s frequently the small, straightforward habits that lead to the most significant changes. Here are 7 easy methods for all parents to engage in genuine self-care, addressing their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs:

1. Move Your Body, Gently

Physical self-care doesn’t require an intense workout. Stretching for five minutes in the morning, dancing to your favourite song, or taking a walk around the block can recharge your energy and nervous system.

2. Check In With Your Feelings

Every day, pause and ask yourself: How am I feeling right now? Not what you’re doing. Not what you’re thinking. What you’re feeling. Naming emotions without judgment builds emotional resilience — and models emotional intelligence for your children.

3. Breathe with Intention

When life feels chaotic, return to your breath. Try 3 slow, deep breaths in and out. It signals to your brain that you are safe, which helps calm anxiety and restore focus.

4. Set Tiny Boundaries

Self-care often looks like saying no — to one more commitment, one more late-night scroll, one more unnecessary guilt trip. Protect your energy by setting tiny, doable boundaries.

5. Feed Your Spirit

What makes you feel alive, connected, or inspired? It might be prayer, meditation, journaling, time in nature, or even just listening to music that moves you. Spiritual self-care reminds you that you're more than your to-do list.

6. Celebrate Small Wins

Notice and celebrate the tiny victories — getting out of bed when it’s hard, choosing kindness when you’re tired, taking a breath before reacting. You’re doing better than you think.

7. Practice Self-Compassion

Speak to yourself like you would speak to your child when they’re struggling — with kindness, patience, and encouragement. Self-compassion isn’t indulgence; it’s healing.

You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to justify your care. You are worthy of being loved — including by yourself!